“You can’t pour from an empty cup” is advice I’ve learned the hard way. As a heart healer and soul mentor, I hold space for other people every day, but the healing that sustains me is the same self-care I guide my clients to practice.
Repair, Not Repeat was inspired by the transformations I’ve witnessed: people reclaiming their power, breaking old patterns, and truly meeting themselves. My work isn’t about perfection; it’s about deepening your connection to yourself, your purpose, and your power.
How I’d describe myself…
My friends say empathetic, loyal, insightful, witty, honest, generous… and snappy when tired. My mum adds: hardworking, kind, driven, stubborn, so, and moody. Classic Scorpio! Me? I’d add clumsy, either scatterbrained or hyper-focused (never in between), extroverted introvert, and somehow, I thrive in last-minute chaos while simultaneously having a mental breakdown!
My go-to self-care practices include…
Walking my dog Poppy by the sea or through the forest – nature always brings me home to myself. I write letters to my angels to process emotions and ask for guidance. Writing clears my head and helps me plan or process. I check in with gratitude and visualisation, but I’m not immune to spirals of self-doubt. I’m a work in progress like anyone else. On slower mornings, I stretch with yoga or simply move at my own pace. I love bubble baths, candles, pamper sessions, or just doing nothing with a coffee. If 80s hits, Beyonce, or Blink-182 are blasting, I’m probably mid-reset. Road trips, simple adventures with my partner, chats with my mum or granny, and belly laughs with my childhood friends; that’s my kind of therapy.
How I heal while helping others…
I don’t teach what I haven’t lived. If I’m guiding deep healing, I’m doing the work too, through hypnotherapy, energy sessions, and staying grounded in nature. I trust my gut more than fear now, but I still overthink and freeze sometimes. The perfectionist in me flares up, but I catch it faster. I’m curious but practical, always learning. My healing journey shifted everything: no fluff, no preaching – just honest, grounded growth. I’ve learned I don’t have to carry it all. Saying “I’m not okay” is healing in itself. Vulnerability still stretches me, but it’s essential if I want to evolve, and help others do the same. Healing isn’t a magic fix or linear – it’s a conscious, daily choice that comes in waves: breakdowns and breakthroughs, laughter and stillness, grief, and grace. It lives in the messy middle, and that’s where real growth happens.
When I’m stressed or times are tough…
I lean on my people. I rarely cry in front of others, but I feel deeply. Every big life decision ends in tears, it’s how I process, quietly. Before every monumental moment or shift in my life, comes the floods. When I’m overwhelmed, I tend to withdraw, but real strength is in letting people in, delegating, and setting boundaries that protect (not isolate) me. My energy matters, and I no longer give it away carelessly.
To start my day…
I’m an early riser, usually up between 6 and 7am. Most mornings start with a walk with my dog, Poppy, but I’m not rigid with routine. Some days I journal, stretch with a sunrise yoga flow, or take on a gratitude or manifestation challenge. Other days, it’s coffee in hand, wrapped in my snoody, watching heartwarming dog rescue shows. I try to keep my mornings spacious. No rushing, no racing through the motions. Whether it’s movement, fresh air, or simply slowing down, I’ve learned how I start my morning shapes everything that day.
To end my day…
Evenings are sacred. I need silence to come back to myself. I’ll light a candle, take a warm shower, spritz lavender, throw on a face mask, and curl up with a book or a podcast. However, some evenings I like to numb out on my phone or watch mindless TV, it’s all about balance. I often cleanse my energy, imagining the weight of the day lifting off my shoulders. Most nights I’m in bed by 10:30pm, rest is non-negotiable now. Still, when inspiration strikes, I honour it. I’m a night owl at heart when creativity calls.
I feel most confident when…
I’m doing what I love; mentoring, teaching, writing, and speaking. I used to fear the spotlight. Now I thrive in it. Watching someone’s spark reignite, hearing their truth land, or witnessing them choose self-worth over self-sabotage reminds me why I do this work. It’s never about fixing, it’s about helping people remember who they are. That’s where the magic is. I also feel confident when I take care of myself. Confidence is a loop: the more I pour into myself, the more I radiate, and the easier it is to keep showing up.
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